2014 // What I've Learnt

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I wasn't going to do one of these posts, but I've had the week off at home and
I've been thinking about how much changed in 2014 for me.
So I thought I'd do a standard new year 'What I've Learnt' post, and I hope that it can
be interesting or helpful to someone! 

1 //  Love, It just works itself out.

Before I met my boyfriend, I had a single spell... of about 2 and a half years.
It was part concentrating on University and part no one good came along.
But it made me realise that you really don't need someone else to be happy, and that you definitely don't need to be in a relationship just for the sake of it.
But, 2014 was the year where this all changed, over a dishwasher and a mutual weird sense of humour.
It's so strange to me to think that at the beginning of this year I didn't know Dayle... Weird.
I guess it made me realised that like everyone says, if it's meant to be, it really will just work itself out.
We've been in the background of each others lives and had the same friends for years, but I guess It just happened when it was supposed to happen. (I'll stop the soppiness now...)

2 //  You have to earn it.

In April I finished my degree in Fine Art, so half of this year was me stressing
about being in third year.
My final year consisted of me working my butt off, thinking that I was producing meaningful and good work, and my tutors disagreeing and marking me down. In the end I JUST managed to get a 2:1, and it was so annoying to have some of the people that you looked up to and trusted in a way, not understanding your work or seeing the effort you were putting in.
There was plenty of times when the bad marks made me question what I was doing and what my work was about, and it was so confusing and infuriating.
But it taught me that you should always look out for yourself and concentrate on what you are doing. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks, if you think what you are doing is right for you, then go right ahead and do it!
Yes getting my degree was hard, stressful and I didn't get the mark that I had hoped for, but I still earned it, I produced work that I was proud of and looking back I enjoyed myself.
You just have to remember to not rely too heavily on others to get you to places you want to go, you can get there all by yourself if you put your mind to it.

3 //   Not everyone will understand what you want.

Finding a job you want to do in this world is hard enough these days, let alone finding one that is sustainable and earns enough money.
Being an art graduate, with all these dreams of owning a gallery and selling work, running a blog on the side and a YouTube channel.... that's quite an obscure bunch of alternative hobby's and interests that a lot of people are not going to understand.
Trying to explain to people that this is what you want to do, when they expect you to get a standard 9-5 job can be pretty annoying and hard going.
But sometimes you forget that other peoples opinions don't really matter, whether it's strangers, friends or family members. They are not you and this is not their life.
You are allowed to choose whatever you want to do.
And even if it's not realistic in the long term, who cares? if you are enjoying it now and giving it your best shot, then you can't regret it.
So go right ahead and prove them people wrong.

4 //   The world revolves around money, but you don't have to let it control you.

Money, you annoying thing you.
Since leaving University I have had the hard reality check of taxes, full time jobs and needing to save up for life and the future, and blimey is it stressful.
The first couple of months I was looking at my bank account, and all the things that I wanted to do and it just was not adding up.
At one point later in the year I had three part time jobs at the same time, was getting taxed a ridiculous amount and just was not enjoying juggling everything.
As an aspiring creative person, who wants to start their own business, yet can't afford to, money is like an enemy. I slowly saw all the plans that I wanted to do after Uni crumble, because of one thing.
Being able to start a new business, whilst saving up to move out, and afford things you want just isn't do-able, but recently I've changed the way I'm thinking about it, and have realised that really, I can survive on as little as I want to for now, while enjoying the simple little things, and the rest will just sort itself out.
If you don't think about something as stressful, then it won't be.

5 //   You don't have to have it all figured out yet.

This kind of coincides with the previous point.
So what if you don't have your dream job yet, or have the money to move out, or the time to do what you want to.
What you currently dislike about your life, is not always going to be your life.
Everything is a stepping stone to get you to where you want to be, and if you really want to, you WILL get there.
I think there is too much pressure on the idea of 'growing up' and 'being an adult'.
Society makes you feel like by the age of 25 you should have everything sorted out and be getting on with your life, but in reality the age for moving out, getting married and securing your career is getting older and older. So don't stress if your 18, 20 or 27 and you still don't have it figured out, you can always change and progress to what you want to do.
You are never too old, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

6 //   Be happy and grateful for what you have and don't stress too much!

I think that the biggest thing I have learnt from the past year, is that no matter what happens, even if everything is going wrong, if you choose to be happy, you can be happy.
We always want more from life and aim higher, which is completely fine, but sometimes you have to sit back and appreciate what you have and stop stressing. (Even though I know I will still do this)
Because if you really think about it, you have a lot to be thankful for, and if you can't feel that way, then remember and believe that it will all work out in the end, some way or another.

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